Getting Married (or having your marriage blessed) in the Cathedral of The Holy Trinity, Gibraltar
Why get married in church? A marriage service, wherever it is held, is a public declaration of love and commitment to your partner.
If you choose to get married in church, there is an added dimension - the assurance that God cares about your relationship and that his resources and strength are available to help you. Including God in your marriage doesn’t mean that you will avoid all the usual ups and downs, but you will know that you can look to God for help and guidance and that his love will sustain you. You will also have the support and encouragement of the Christian Church family.
Preparing for the service: frequently asked questions
Q 1. Can I get married at Holy Trinity Cathedral? You may be married in the Cathedral of the Holy Trinity Gibraltar if at least one of you is a baptised Anglican and neither of you is currently married. In line with the Church of England rules you must also have a connection with Holy Trinity Gibraltar: because you live in Gibraltar; because your family lives in Gibraltar; or because you have been attending services regularly at Holy Trinity Gibraltar for the last six months.
Q 2. How do I book the church? As soon as you have decided you would like to get married in Holy Trinity Cathedral, get in touch with a member of the Cathedral clergy to see whether the Cathedral is free on your preferred date and time, and to have an initial meeting to discuss your plans and complete the relevant application form.
Q 3. What are the legal requirements? You are required to obtain a Licence for the department of Births, Marriages and Deaths in Secretary Lane, Gibraltar (phone +350 200 72289 or 20051725, email email@example.com
The Registrar will require relevant forms to be completed before you proceed to a Solicitor or Commissioner for Oaths. You will be given a list of names and address of suitable people. This must all be completed at least 48 hours before a Licence is given, and the Licence will be collected by a member of staff of Holy Trinity Cathedral.
The Licence is only valid for 3 months from the date of issue.
If you are under the age of eighteen, you must have your parents’ consent to marry.
Q 4. How much will it cost? The church fees for a marriage are £522 for 2018, and cover the use of the Cathedral (including the services of Cathedral staff), an organist, a red carpet, bells, and a certificate of marriage. They do not cover a choir (which is an extra £50).
Check with a member of the Cathedral clergy regarding arrangements for flowers, special lighting, video recording, special printed service sheets, choir, and so on.
Fees should be paid no later than 3 weeks before the marriage is to take place. If either one of you is resident in Gibraltar or in the U.K. you might consider Gift-aiding the fees and completing the relevant application form.
Talk over the options with a member of the Cathedral clergy. There are usually one or more readings from the Bible in the service - your clergy can help you select the most appropriate. There will also be some prayers, which you may help to choose, or you may write your own with your priest’s approval. You may also decide to have someone other than the priest leading the prayers.
The priest will give a brief talk or sermon.
If you have friends or family members you would like to involve in the service, for example by doing a reading or playing a musical instrument, discuss this with your parish priest at an early stage of your planning.
Q 6. Which hymns and songs can I have? Your clergy can advise on suitable hymns and songs, as well as music for coming in, going out and during the signing of the register. If you want to set out the words and/or music on a printed service sheet, you will need to comply with the copyright laws - you should consult your clergy about this.
Q 7. Should we have one or two rings? A wedding ring is a symbol of unending love and faithfulness, and of the commitment you are making to each other. It is entirely up to you whether you have one ring or two.
Q 8. Can we have a video recording of the service? You will need to ask permission from the priest conducting your service and from any organist/worship leader. There may be a small fee to pay.
Q 9. What if one of us is divorced? The Church of England teaches that marriage is for life. It also recognizes that, sadly, some marriages do fail and, if this should happen, it seeks to be available for all involved. If one of has been divorced a Church Marriage might be appropriate or alternatively you might consider having, instead, a Service of Prayer and Dedication after a civil ceremony, otherwise known as a Marriage Blessing.
Q10. What if neither of us is an Anglican? If neither of you is a baptised Anglican a Marriage Blessing is still possible if you have a connection (see Q1) with Holy Trinity Gibraltar.
Procedure for a Request for the Blessing of a Civil Marriage at The Cathedral of the Holy Trinity Gibraltar